We had to design a book cover as part of our final for digital illustration, and I chose Madeleine L’Engle’s A Wind In The Door! The character here is Proginoskes, a “singular cherubim”.
YOU HAVE BROUGHT ME DOLLS.
YOU ARE MORE THAN WELCOME AT THE BIRTHDAY; YOU ARE WELCOME AT MY TABLE, WHERE WE CAN SIT AND LOOK OUT UPON THE BLOOD PIT AND PLAY WITH OUR DOLLS, YES, WITH OUR MANY GLORIOUS DOLLS.
HAIL TO THE BIRTHDAY. HAIL TO THE DOLLS WATCHING, DOLLS KNOWING, DOLLS JUDGING ALL.
WELCOME TO THE BIRTHDAY. WELCOME TO THE BIRTHDAY. WELCOME TO THE BIRTHDAY UNENDING.
Young women are having difficulty accessing tubal ligation, despite it being a relatively safe (death rate is 1-2 per 100,000) and elective surgery.
There is a waiting period of 30 days for women seeking tubal ligation, yet no waiting period for men seeking vasectomies.
Young women are often discriminated against when seeking sterilization. Many doctors ask offensive questions (“What if you met a billionaire who wanted to have kids with you?”), state categorically that their patients are too young to consider the surgery, and generally act as though, as one woman who tried unsuccessfully to be sterilized at the age of 21 in the U.K. put it, ”just because I was a woman, I’d reach a point where an urge to breed would overcome all rational thought.” (Perhaps unsurprisingly, that woman’s 25-year-old husband faced no such presumptions when he asked his doctor for a vasectomy. The procedure was quickly approved.)
Say that at 18 I slap down enough money so I could have my whole body covered head-to-toe in tattoos, piercings all over myself, a mountain of cigarettes, plastic surgery, and plan to have like 20 babies… but if I try at all to safely make it impossible for me to breed for the sake of my health suddenly its like WOAH THERE SLOW DOWN MISSY YOU’RE NOT READY FOR THIS KIND OF COMMITMENT YET
I have stage III Endometriosis, which means I have to get my uterus removed because I literally have terrible cramps ALL THE TIME and not just when I’m on my period. Now, I’ve always said I don’t want any children for personal reasons and I don’t need my uterus, really. I am not worried about that surgery and I don’t feel any kind of nostalgia over an organ I won’t ever use.
The thing is, my doctor is a ‘man’. This ‘man’ told me I had to get pregnant right now before it’s too late. I told him I didn’t want to get pregnant and explained the multiple reasons but what, do you ask, did my doctor have to say about this? 'Well, better have a kid now because just imagine how depressing it must be being a thirty-something woman without children and a husband?'
I was diagnosed a year ago. I should have gone through surgery six months ago and I still can’t find a doctor that will perform the surgery without trying to force me to have children first. Basically, if you’re a woman you don’t have a say in what can and cannot be done to your body without a shitload of people getting in the way AND I’M FUCKING SICK OF IT.
Women are getting non-consensually sterilized in prison but no doctors in my area while tie my tubes at 24 because I might regret it? Fuck you, doctors. I have more purpose in life than dropping babies. Some of those women in prison are probably great moms and I have no interest in parenting. Let us have a say!
A dear friend of mine wanted to have her tubes tied. She was about to give birth to twins and the doctors wouldn’t consent because she wasn’t 21 yet. She had already had children and they still refused to let her have the procedure.
My friend got a vasectomy a week after asking his doctor for one, no problem. He was 25.
Me? I’ve asked 4 different doctors for some kind of permanent sterilisation—tubal ligation or Essure or whatever—and I get a pat on the head and a “You’d regret it if you did.”
Oh, DIDN’T REALIZE YOU HAD A DIRECT LINE TO MY BRAIN.
Thanks, guys, for reminding me about something that I’ve been worrying about for at least a decade.
I’ve never been a kid person. My mother fairly recently told me about an incident when I was little where she knew right then that I would never have children. And yet, when I was a teenager and expressed a desire to never have kids, she urged me to reconsider because I was her best shot at having grandkids. Yeah.
I have many reasons for this, such as being afraid that pregnancies would treat me as badly as my mother’s did, financial reasons, knowing that I wouldn’t be very good at taking care of children, not wanting any children I would have to go through what I did at 17, not finding babies cute, and just generally not wanting children. You’re not going to sway me of this one, guys.
And yet, even recently, I was told by a female nurse that I’d change my mind when I’m 30. I seriously doubt this.
Or maybe I should have tried my teenage views on her and told her that pregnancy is an STD?
The dad cat liked to hang out in the sink by himself
AND THEN THE KITTENS FOUND HIM
HE LOOKS SO ANNOYED
I DIDN’T SIGN ON FOR THIS SHIT.
it literally can not get cuter than this
Why do dudes always wanna know your bra size tho, what are they gonna do, buy you bras?? Cause that would be very helpful bras cost a lot of money i would save a fortune
You’re saying that like they have any idea how cup sizes even work.